For some men, their wives have a chronic ‘headache’ that never seems to affect their daily lives, but perpetually and mysteriously pops up in the marital bed.
But, while ‘my parents are right in the next room’ may be a legit excuse to get out of sex, the root problem may be that these women really want to just get out of having sex.
Clinically, a sexual problem is defined as anything that interferes with a woman's satisfaction with a sexual activity. When this happens, it is often referred to by health professionals as female sexual dysfunction (FSD).
But women aren’t supposed to have sexual problems, right? What is there for a woman to have to do anyway?
The sexual response cycle
As it turns out, lots. While men can suffer from erectile dysfunction (impotence) or a very small penis (also known medically as a micropenis), the range of sexual problems experienced by women are vast in comparison.
To put this in perspective, let’s take a look at the normal sexual response cycle. Consider that during sex, women will experience:
I. Desire (excitement phase) - Desire increases interest in and responsiveness to sexual activity. You feel "in the mood." Your heartbeat and breathing quicken, and your skin becomes flushed with blood.
II. Arousal (plateau phase) - Sexual stimulation--touch, vision, hearing, taste, smell, or imagination--brings about further physical changes. Fluids are secreted within the vagina, moistening the vagina, labia, and vulva. These fluids provide lubrication for intercourse. The vagina expands, and the clitoris enlarges. The nipples become hardened or erect.
III. Orgasm (climax) - At the peak of arousal, the muscles surrounding the vagina contract rhythmically, causing a pleasurable sensation. This is often referred to as the sexual climax.
IV. Resolution - The vagina, clitoris, and surrounding areas return to their unaroused states. You feel content, relaxed, possibly sleepy.
Now get this: a sexual problem is when any of these stages does not occur.
Problems faced by men are more commonly (and easily) addressed. Men have, for example, Andro, a topical cream that is used to reduce the occurrence of impotence by the application of butea superba extract, as well as oral medications such as Viagra or Cialis, which work by promoting nitric oxide synthesis. What resort do women have?
What’s the problem?
Solving sexual problems begins with knowing the causes. Women are not helped by the fact that their sexual problems can have many causes. Here’s a brief checklist of what can affect a woman’s sex drive:
If you feel like you’re not getting it on the way you should, or notice that your love life has been in a sudden chronic state of decline for at least a few weeks, you should consider seeing someone new.
We mean your doctor.
He or she may be able to see if you have an underlying medical condition that is affecting your sex life. Chances are, your doctor can even help you improve your sex life by recommending a sex therapist – or simply by prescribing you some pain killers for your perpetual ‘headache’.